When two people are physically apart, every moment spent together is that much more precious.
'Your time is the most valuable gift you can give. For when you give of your time, you are giving a piece of your life that cannot be returned.'
I spent the past weekend stalking (quick, call the po pos!) my Feveret Human. It may seem a tad obsessive, but most of the time I enjoy being woken up by his Skype calls in the middle of the night. That is partially because my previous working hours used to be strange & short, & because I am currently working even less hours than I used to, bahahahahah! Or else I would probably be like, 'Feck, honeh! I needs ma beauty sleep!' :P
Being able to actually see the other person is so important, as I realized after we had to go more than a week without video calls a few months ago. Technology is a godsend, & though it can never replace actual human presence, it also means that one doesn't really have any excuse anymore to not put in the necessary effort needed to keep a relationship alive. The written word is an effective means of communication, but at the same, well-meaning intentions can be misconstrued through that medium as well. & to see the expressions on the other person's face adds a whole other dimension to an interaction.
So it's some twisted form of enjoyment I have in me that I enjoy being woken up in the middle of the night to talk to my Feveret Human. & after all this while, it sometimes
still feels surreal when the sun is shining on his side of the world when it is pitch black over here, or vice versa.
It is also a lucky coincidence that we both enjoy doing solitary indoor activities, for example reading & writing, which can also be done in the presence of another. & I have always appreciated that look on a person's face when someone is doing something they are really passionate about. There's just something about their whole aura that changes, they become so magnetizing. Mphk!
& when you're with the person you love, even the mundane things become magical. Just their mere presence changes the whole experience.
Call me a big baby but I also love falling asleep with him on the other end of the line, struggling to keep my eyes open but eventually having to succumb to the lure of Lalaland. His face, his voice, even his snoring, is comforting. Sometimes I even ask for a bedtime story. Geez, sounds so scary lah. Am I really turning in to an obsessed stalker??? LMAO!
Am I over-sharing here??? Okey, Imma stop.
Time apart is of course a necessary 'evil' in any healthy relationship. But the true magic of a relationship happens when both individuals come together to share & grow in unison. When two people can speak openly & without fear of judgement about their fears, their hopes, & aspirations for the future. To share & discuss new ideas or perspectives they have learnt during their individual travels.
& it's been a long time since we've spent this much time together in a day. Mostly because of his working hours, but also because we both have our own personal pursuits that cannot be shared at the moment due to our physical locations.
I can barely contain my excitement thinking of doing all the things we will do together. Simple things like going to the movies, going to the gym together, trying out a new activity together; the list goes on. Will we eventually tire of each other though? Meh. I doubt so.
For now, I am content with whatever time we have for each other. We both know we need to work on ourselves in order to make this relationship a successful one. Yet we both also know & try our best to prioritize the other, in any situation. Excuses are just the same as saying 'I don't want to'. With the advent of technology, all it takes is a simple message - & there are millions of messaging apps & services which are available 24/7 - to reach out to someone.
A long distance relationship definitely requires much more attention & effort, in different ways that a normal relationship does. You don't have the luxury of coming home to each other at the end of a hard day; & minus the physical closeness, differences have to be brought out into the open & really resolved as opposed to sweeping them under the carpet with physical intimacy. You may also have to steal bits & pieces of time in between social activities to connect to your loved one, but this would seem a small price to pay.
But once you've found the right person, it will be worth every ounce of effort you put in.
Presence definitely > Presents.
But presents every once in a while are nice too. *wink wink* Heee... :P :P :P
I had a lovely weekend. Thank you, Feveret Human. xoxo
